{"id":13626,"date":"2018-09-21T12:27:10","date_gmt":"2018-09-21T04:27:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.intimina.com\/blog\/?p=13626"},"modified":"2020-05-14T13:21:43","modified_gmt":"2020-05-14T11:21:43","slug":"understanding-miscarriage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.intimina.com\/blog\/understanding-miscarriage\/","title":{"rendered":"You’re One Tough Mother \u2013 Understanding the Trauma of Miscarriage"},"content":{"rendered":"

Miscarriage \u2013 the word alone is painful to hear, and the experience can feel almost impossible to survive. You’ve lovingly prepared your body to grow new life, and seemingly in an instant, your future family feels stolen away. <\/span><\/p>\n

The pain, confusion, and depression that can come after miscarrying make it difficult not to place blame on yourself, but in reality, there’s nothing that can really be done to prevent a spontaneous termination.<\/span><\/p>\n

From a scientific standpoint, miscarriage is a sad but all-too-common risk we take during the conception process. Although cold, hard scientific facts aren’t exactly a cure-all for recovery, it’s comforting to understand that you’re far from alone in your trauma, and this difficult experience is all a part of our biological processes. <\/span><\/p>\n

It’s More Common Than You Think<\/h2>\n

For a miscarriage to occur, the pregnancy must end on its\u2019 own within the first 20 weeks of gestation. For humans,<\/span> around 10% to 25% of known pregnancies end spontaneously<\/b><\/a> within <\/span>the first trimester<\/a><\/strong>. Many end so early \u00a0– around the 9 week mark – that women are completely unaware that they’re pregnant until the body begins to cramp and bleed in preparation to expel the fetus. <\/span><\/p>\n

There\u2019s Little You Can Do to Prevent It<\/h2>\n

Miscarriage is simply one of the many risks associated with pregnancy. Even the most perfectly planned pregnancies full of pre-natal vitamins, healthy eating, and better-safe-then-sorry living practices can\u2019t always prevent a fetus from passing away in the womb.<\/span><\/p>\n

Miscarrying is nature\u2019s way \u2013 however saddening \u2013 to keep the gene pool thriving. Most miscarriages are related <\/span>t<\/b>o abnormalities in the fetus\u2019s chromosomes, which are the structures inside our cells that contain genetic material. When our bodies detect that our fetus has little chance of growing up to be a normally-functioning human, nature takes its\u2019 course and mercifully ends this tiny life before it can feel the pain and suffering of dying later in life. <\/span><\/p>\n

Age can also play a role. Mothers are twice as likely to miscarry between ages 35 and 39, with a whopping 20% chance of losing the child. Past age 40, this rate skyrockets again to 40%, and increases to 80% at age 45. Although you shouldn\u2019t miss out on the awesome potential to be a parent based on age alone, it\u2019s a possibility that\u2019s essential to consider as you plan your future. <\/span><\/p>\n

When miscarriages <\/span>are <\/span><\/i>the rare fault of the mother, it is usually in extreme cases, such as with alcohol and drug abuse while pregnant. Even if you don\u2019t miscarry, toxic substances can cause serious birth defects, so it\u2019s always best to just avoid smoking cigarettes, drinking alcohol, and using drugs for the safety of your child.<\/span><\/p>\n

If You\u2019ve Miscarried Once, It\u2019s Unlikely to Happen Again<\/h2>\n

The good news is that a miscarriage, regardless of whether it\u2019s your first pregnancy<\/a><\/strong>, isn\u2019t likely to plague your entire child-bearing life. In fact, less than 5% of women who\u2019ve miscarried will consecutively lose another child in-utero, and only 1% will experience three or more losses. <\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s completely safe to begin trying for another baby as soon as you\u2019re emotionally ready. Although your body is ready to conceive immediately after, you might not be in the right mindset until you\u2019ve found peace and healing, and that\u2019s perfectly natural.<\/span><\/p>\n

Just Remember \u2013 It’s Your Experience & No One Else’s Business<\/h2>\n

The emotions surrounding miscarriage are unique to every woman, and there’s no reason to feel like yours aren’t valid. It’s easy for outsiders to try to frame your experience or place blame where it doesn’t belong. It’s important to remember that however you’re holding up afterwards, you’ve survived very real mental and physical trauma, and it’s not up to strangers or even family and friends to tell you how to feel. <\/span><\/p>\n

For excited moms-to-be, miscarrying the child you’ve meticulously planned for and daydreamed about can feel like the end of the world. And why wouldn’t it? <\/span><\/p>\n

You owe it yourself to grieve, take time away from work or obligations, and seek professional counseling if you feel like you’re going off the deep end<\/strong>.<\/span><\/p>\n

By complete contrast, a miscarriage can feel like a relief or blessing in disguise if you weren’t ready to have a child, or were even considering abortion at one point. Similarly, there’s no reason to send yourself into a downward guilt trip if miscarrying <\/span>didn’t <\/span><\/i>wreck your emotional state. <\/span><\/p>\n

In Conclusion<\/h2>\n

No matter the how, why, or when, miscarriage is a fact of all animal life; it might not feel natural, but it doesn’t make you abnormal. Miscarrying can take a heavy toll on your mind and body, but it doesn’t have to steal your chance at a happy future, with or without children. Grow and learn through the pain, heal at your own pace, and then emerge from the ashes like the mighty phoenix woman you’ve always been. <\/span><\/p>\n

If you know you were meant to be a mom, we know you’ll find a way.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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