{"id":17647,"date":"2020-05-29T14:51:51","date_gmt":"2020-05-29T12:51:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.intimina.com\/blog\/?p=17647"},"modified":"2020-06-01T10:10:43","modified_gmt":"2020-06-01T08:10:43","slug":"monogamish-exploring-polyamory","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.intimina.com\/blog\/monogamish-exploring-polyamory\/","title":{"rendered":"Monogamish: Exploring Polyamory"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>It\u2019s the 21st century, and we\u2019re here to dismantle the habits and patterns that are meant to keep us in tiny boxes. Especially when it comes to love and relationships.<\/p>\n<p>While the acceptance of polyamory is relatively new in the Western world, it\u2019s as old as history. People have found variations of polyamory everywhere from ancient Egypt, to Greece, to Nepal, Mesopotamia, and even in the bible.<\/p>\n<p>Polyamory gets a bad rap because in a lot of cases, it came with a side of oppression- almost always towards women.<\/p>\n<p>But that wasn\u2019t always the case, and in the renaissance that is currently evolving our views on sex and love- polyamory is getting another chance.<\/p>\n<p>Although it may seem hush, the desire for non-monogamy is pretty widespread. A <a href=\"https:\/\/www.lehmiller.com\/blog\/2017\/3\/3\/is-an-open-relationship-right-for-you\">2016 survey<\/a>, found that 31% of women and 48% of men said that their ideal relationship involves some form of ethical non-monogamy. While that doesn\u2019t necessarily mean they\u2019re practicing it, the curiosity is there.<\/p>\n<h2>For starters, here\u2019s a glossary to familiarize yourself with popular polyamorous lingo:<\/h2>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM)<\/strong>: Umbrella term for the variety of ways people can navigate romantic and sexual relationships. It is grounded in mutual respect, with consent, and enthusiasm. Often referred to as Consensual Non-Monogamy, or CNM.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Polyamory<\/strong>: The literal definition is \u201cmany loves\u201d. Again this is a somewhat umbrella term, and does not dictate the specifics of someone\u2019s relationship.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Polygamy<\/strong>: Having more than one married partner at a time.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Swingers<\/strong>: People who swap sexual partners.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>Variety Is The Spice of Life<\/h2>\n<p>The ways people put polyamory into practice differs from relationship to relationship, and maybe constantly shifting or evolving.<\/p>\n<p>Some people will have their core relationship, often called their \u201cprimary partner\u201d and then be dating other people outside of that.<\/p>\n<p>There could be a group of people, where they are all in a relationship with each other. For some couples, they\u2019re cool with having sex outside of their relationship, but not developing it deeper. For others, they make room for deep emotional connections outside of their main partner, but sex is off the table.<\/p>\n<p>People are creative, and so are the ways they relate to each other. Putting no limit on the possibilities of polyamory. Except maybe time.<\/p>\n<h2>Radical Communication<\/h2>\n<p>One thing we can learn from polyamory is the importance of communication. For people to have a truly evolved polyamorous relationship, they also need to hold the utmost respect for each other. In order to develop and maintain that respect, everyone in the dynamic needs to have a crystal clear understanding of what\u2019s going on.<\/p>\n<p>People I know that are in polyamorous relationships, often have the best communication skills- because it\u2019s a necessity. Or maybe they thrive in polyamory thanks to their communication skills. Either way, they have an uncanny ability to articulate their needs, and speak up when things aren\u2019t working for them.<\/p>\n<h2>Radical Freedom<\/h2>\n<p>Another central component to polyamory is radical freedom.<\/p>\n<p>Freedom to respect the individual needs of each person, and their partners. Within the idea of radical freedom, is the importance of human connection, and how dynamics between individual people can offer distinct things at different times.<\/p>\n<p>The point of polyamory isn\u2019t to sleep with as many people as possible, or to find a way to avoid commitment, it\u2019s about not putting limits on the emotions we can develop for each other as humans.<\/p>\n<h2>Myth Busters<\/h2>\n<p>Ok, while we\u2019re here, we may as well put some common polyamory myths to bed.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Polyamory doesn\u2019t mean you\u2019re having orgies left and right. Although there\u2019s nothing wrong if you are (safely and consensually of course). As we mentioned, sex may or may not be a part of a polyamorous relationship. Even if it is, that doesn\u2019t mean everyone is having sex together- at the same time.<\/li>\n<li>Jealousy happens. It\u2019s not that people don\u2019t experience jealousy. It\u2019s a natural human emotion after all. But jealousy can and does happen in monogamous relationships as well. The deep sense of trust in how things are meant to pan out for you and your partners, is what allows people to work through jealousy. That, and a healthy amount of communication.<\/li>\n<li>You don\u2019t need anyone\u2019s approval. It isn\u2019t anyone else\u2019s business who you date, except your partners and potential partners.<\/li>\n<li>Polyamorous people are always \u201ckinky\u201d. Not always, you\u2019d have to ask one yourself!<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>The Bottom Line<\/h2>\n<p>We\u2019re not here to argue for any sides, we\u2019re here to broaden your ideas of what\u2019s possible when navigating the (often confusing) waters of romantic relationships.<\/p>\n<p>Relationships are tricky no matter who you date, and how many partners you have. But they are so incredibly rewarding. Polyamory is not for everyone.<\/p>\n<p>We all have different boundaries, needs, and comfort levels. And we shouldn\u2019t sacrifice those for the sake of trying to keep a relationship alive. Life is too short. If you\u2019re curious, let yourself explore the many different ways you\u2019re being called to relate with other people.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>It\u2019s the 21st century, and we\u2019re here to dismantle the habits and patterns that are meant to keep us in tiny boxes. 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