{"id":17936,"date":"2020-08-03T19:44:21","date_gmt":"2020-08-03T17:44:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.intimina.com\/blog\/?p=17936"},"modified":"2020-09-04T12:28:56","modified_gmt":"2020-09-04T10:28:56","slug":"are-you-in-an-orgasm-rut","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.intimina.com\/blog\/are-you-in-an-orgasm-rut\/","title":{"rendered":"Are You in an Orgasm Rut?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p style=\"font-size: 14px; font-weight: bold;\"><em>This article was medically fact-checked by Women&#8217;s health expert and Gynaecologist <a href=\"#drscroll\">Dr. Alyssa Dweck<\/a>.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Who doesn\u2019t love to cum?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Not only do <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.mindbodygreen.com\/articles\/9-healthy-reasons-to-have-more-orgasms\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">orgasms<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> feel incredible, but they can help improve circulation, relieve period cramps, help you sleep, and relieve anxiety. But if you\u2019re a member of the frequent cummer club (which I hope you are), you\u2019ve probably realized that <\/span><b>not all orgasms are created equally<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">While some orgasms may leave your knees quaking and heart shaking, others feel more like an awkward reflex. Like an obligatory orgasm that helps to relieve tension, but leaves much to be desired. These are often called \u201csneezegasms\u201d. They\u2019re over and done with as fast as a sneeze. Maybe you\u2019ll have another one, or four, but they still don\u2019t quite hit the spot.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you find yourself having more sneezegasms than truly satisfying orgasms, <\/span><b>you may be in an orgasm rut<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">An orgasm rut you say? While we\u2019ll dare to say that if you\u2019re having any orgasm, it\u2019s better than none at all, we want you to be having deeper, transcendent, earth-shattering orgasms \u2013 on the regular. Because hey, it\u2019s your birthright.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So how does one break out of an orgasm rut? How do you begin to embody the sensual seductress of your dreams and the monumental orgasms that come with it?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Well, that\u2019s why we\u2019re here today: To give you some sweet tips on how to break out of your orgasm rut, and become a cum queen.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Get Back in Your Body<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Life can be incredibly stressful, and a normal reaction of stress is losing your sense of groundedness. When you don\u2019t feel grounded, it makes it hard to feel present in your body. This dissociation can make it difficult to feel the nuanced build-up of sexual arousal that leads to deeper orgasms.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Any amount of time that you spend investing in feeling present in your body, is practice for feeling more present sexually.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maybe you already have hobbies and passions that help you get in the zone. If so, awesome! When going about your normal routine, try tapping into your body even more by slowing down, breathing deeper, feeling the sensations run throughout your body.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">These days many women turn to popular apps such as calm or headspace to enjoy and benefit from mindfulness exercises daily.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">TM (transcendental meditation) is also becoming more recognized in the mainstream and popular; this will require more of a time commitment of course\u2026. Well worth it for true followers.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you don\u2019t have any hobbies that help you practice physical mindfulness, now is a great time to pick one up! Some of our favorites are <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.intimina.com\/blog\/yogic-sex-secrets\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">yoga<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, breathwork, dancing, hiking, pilates, and even just gentle stretching.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Here\u2019s a simple practice for getting back into your body:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Lie in a comfortable position on your back (this is great in the bathtub too).\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Quickly rub your hands together to warm them up.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Let your hands rest on different body parts, starting from the top of your head making your way to your forehead, shoulders, heart, stomach, pelvic, hips, knees, and feet.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Each time you move to a new body part, take a few minutes to breathe deeply into that area. Take extra time near your pelvis, feeling the swelling of energy in your erogenous zones.\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Allow the wave of relaxation to slowly wash over you, flooding your being with a sense of presence.\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><b>Set The Space<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It can be difficult to feel present in the moment when your space feels less than inspiring.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Taking the time to set your sensual space before getting it on (with yourself or someone else), creates a ritual around your pleasure, and helps to break up any stagnancy that\u2019s instigating your orgasm rut.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This may look different for everyone. Here are some ideas for setting up your orgasmic zone:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Keep it tidy. There\u2019s nothing like a pile of dirty socks on the floor to take you out of the moment.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Light the fire. Utilize the tantalizing power of fire by lighting candles, incense, or whatever sexy smells speak to you.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Playtime playlist. Not everyone is into music while they have sex, but if these is your thing, take the time to specially curate a playlist to have ready, so you don\u2019t have to think about in the heat of the moment.\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><b>Switch it Up<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What\u2019s one of the most important steps towards getting out of an orgasm rut? By literally changing whatever you\u2019ve been doing of course.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">While we\u2019re advocates for any kind of orgasm and are glad that you\u2019ve found something that works for you, maybe we can help broaden your horizons.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do you always get off by laying on your back and using your vibrator? Is missionary your regular go-to maneuver? There\u2019s nothing wrong with any of those, or whatever your regular move is. We\u2019re not saying to eliminate them, but simply add more in.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Novelty is exciting.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you always lie on your back to orgasm, try sitting up, or standing, or being on your belly. If you always use your hand, try a toy \u2013 and vice versa. Maybe try a different place in your house, or outside of your house altogether.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For some people, it can be difficult to break from what works for you. Our suggestion is to go about your business as usual, and when you get really close to orgasming, change your position and finish like that. This will trick your brain into becoming used to something new, so over time, you can easily orgasm in exciting, novel ways.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Touch Yourself\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span id=\"drscroll\" style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Last, but certainly not least, masturbate! Whether your orgasm rut is with yourself, a partner, or both, spending time alone with your body is the best way to tap back into its needs.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Use all the tips above, and try them by yourself, before integrating them into your partnered sex life.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>With some parting words of encouragement, you can absolutely break your orgasm rut, and start having the most dynamic orgasms imaginable. Bon voyage!<\/b><\/p>\n<div class=\"drstamp\" style=\"margin-bottom: 10px; background-color: #fff5f7; padding: 20px 20px 5px 20px;\">\n<h3 style=\"padding-bottom: 10px;\">Facts checked by:<\/h3>\n<h3 style=\"color: #ed008c;\"><strong>Dr. Alyssa Dweck<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft wp-image-28100\" style=\"padding-top: 5px;\" src=\"https:\/\/www.intimina.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/dr.dweck_.jpg\" alt=\"Dr. Alyssa Dweck\" width=\"110\" height=\"96\" \/><\/p>\n<p style=\"font-size: 14px;\">Alyssa Dweck MS, MD, FACOG is a practicing gynecologist in Westchester County, New York. She provides care to women of all ages; she has delivered thousands of babies. She is proficient in minimally invasive surgery and has special interest and expertise in female sexual health and medical sex therapy. She is top doctor in New York Magazine and Westchester Magazine. Dr. Dweck has co-authored three books including the most recent release The Complete A to Z For Your V.<\/p>\n<p style=\"font-size: 14px;\"><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/drdweck.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener noreferrer\">Website<\/a><\/strong> | <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/drdweck\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener noreferrer\">Twitter<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<h3 style=\"padding-left: 20px;\">Written by:<\/h3>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>This article was medically fact-checked by Women&#8217;s health expert and Gynaecologist Dr. Alyssa Dweck. 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