{"id":18051,"date":"2020-08-19T12:49:42","date_gmt":"2020-08-19T10:49:42","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.intimina.com\/blog\/?p=18051"},"modified":"2020-08-19T12:49:42","modified_gmt":"2020-08-19T10:49:42","slug":"sex-is-not-transactional","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.intimina.com\/blog\/sex-is-not-transactional\/","title":{"rendered":"Sex is Not Transactional"},"content":{"rendered":"

We all deserve to have the ecstatic, mindblowing, toe-curling sex of our dreams. Encounters come from a place of respect, understanding, and mutuality.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Too many conversations about sex, seem to come from a less than empowered place. One where you have to buy or earn your partner\u2019s affection. A tit for tat sort of exchange, instead of a constant flow of reciprocity.<\/span><\/p>\n

Relationships of any nature take tender care, a lot of attention, and yes – some sacrifice, but it shouldn\u2019t mean sacrificing your pleasure. Or that your pleasure should come at a price.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

When our sexual relationships are out of balance, they often take on a transactional approach. It\u2019s almost as if economic ideas come into the bedroom, causing us to say things like \u201cMy partner did *this* for me last week, so now I have to do *this* for them today. So not sexy!<\/span><\/p>\n

This isn\u2019t necessarily a discussion that\u2019s happening out loud or an inner dialogue you\u2019re even aware of – but there\u2019s a subconscious tracking of who is doing what for who, and when. This sort of mentality takes the spontaneity out of sex, where neither of you are feeling satisfied.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Instead of keeping tabs on who went down on who last, you want to be in a state of giving for the sake of giving – as well as receiving for the sake of receiving.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

While relationships require a balance of each individual\u2019s needs and desires, this has to come from a place of understanding.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

There are very subtle, but distinct differences between \u201ctransactional sex\u201d and just being a good lover. A lot of it is only perceptible by tuning in to how satisfied you\u2019re feeling, and how connected you feel to your partner.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Sex is an incredibly tender topic that brings up a lot of emotions, some that are hard to differentiate between. Which is why we\u2019ve laid out what it may look like if your sex life has become transactional, and how to get out of it.<\/span><\/p>\n

Here Are Some Warning Signs:<\/b><\/b><\/p>\n