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If you haven\u2019t taken the time to examine your relationship with your sense of pleasure, it can seem like a straightforward matter of ‘it feels good or it doesn\u2019t.’ <\/span>That couldn\u2019t be further from the truth. There are so many factors that come into play when discussing sensation in sexual pleasure.\u00a0 <\/span>Have you ever felt like you\u2019re not feeling as much sensation as you think you could be during sex? <\/span>Or like you numb out and don\u2019t feel totally present in your body?<\/span><\/p>\n

Or that you tend to feel a lot more when you\u2019re masturbating versus having sex with someone else? <\/span>These are common, yet incredibly frustrating things that people experience when navigating their sex lives. If you feel like you want to learn how to feel more overall while having sex, we\u2019ve got some tips for you.<\/span><\/p>\n

What\u2019s Under The Surface?<\/b><\/p>\n

The amount of sensation you feel during sex usually doesn\u2019t just come down to having the right technique or toys. There\u2019s so much under the surface that influences what you\u2019re experiencing. <\/span>Your mental state, connection with your partner, environmental setting, and so much more all influence how much and what you\u2019re feeling. <\/span>If you\u2019re experiencing stress, anxiety, depression, or any other mental health issue, you\u2019re more likely to be stuck in your head, which limits your ability to feel what\u2019s going on in the rest of your body.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Your connection and relationship with your sexual partner, whether it\u2019s a fling or a long-term relationship also has an impact on your levels of sensation. If you don\u2019t feel totally comfortable with this person, or you\u2019ve had a disagreement with them you might not be present during sex. When it comes to a new partner, sometimes it\u2019s just a matter of not knowing them well enough to have built the connection your body needs to feel the pleasure you\u2019re capable of. It\u2019s incredibly common for people with vulvas to not orgasm with a new partner.<\/span><\/p>\n

Another factor to take into account is your physical setting. If you\u2019re somewhere where you\u2019re scared someone might hear or walk in on you (unless you\u2019re into that), you might subconsciously hold back and not feel all the nuanced juiciness of this sexual encounter. <\/span>Low levels of sexual pleasure could also be because of an underlying health issue like <\/span>vulvodynia<\/span><\/a>, <\/span>endometriosis<\/span><\/a>, or even menopause \u2013\u00a0 not that that\u2019s an issue. Consult your healthcare provider if you experience pain or discomfort during sex, as that can certainly interfere with your ability to feel as much as you want to.<\/span><\/p>\n

Hopefully, this helped you be able to pinpoint why you\u2019re not feeling as much during sex as you\u2019d like to. Now let\u2019s look at how to change that.<\/span><\/p>\n

Mental and Physical Health<\/b><\/p>\n

If you think your physical or mental health is what\u2019s interfering with your ability to feel deeply during sex, your first step is addressing that and taking steps to heal. <\/span>Again, if it\u2019s a reproductive health issue, consult your gynaecologist or general provider first. <\/span>To help treat other blocks around pleasure, you can see a specialist whose main job is to support people in experiencing sexual wellness. This could be a <\/span>sexological bodyworker<\/span><\/a>, someone who uses somatic techniques like breathwork and therapeutic touch to help people overcome sexual blocks.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sex therapists<\/span><\/a> also work with people to help them get to the bottom of why they\u2019re not having the sex they want to be having, and other issues around sexuality. You can see a sex therapist as an individual or with your partner. <\/span>Outside of seeing a professional, managing stress levels and maintaining a healthy lifestyle helps you to feel better all around, which ultimately can lead to more fulfilling sex. <\/span>Breathwork<\/span><\/a>, <\/span>yoga<\/span><\/a>, and <\/span>meditation<\/span><\/a> are all ways you can help manage your stress levels.<\/span><\/p>\n

Do it Yourself<\/b><\/p>\n

If seeing a professional isn\u2019t the right move for you, we have some other tips on learning how to feel more during sex.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n