{"id":20736,"date":"2022-01-10T14:14:41","date_gmt":"2022-01-10T13:14:41","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.intimina.com\/blog\/?p=20736"},"modified":"2022-01-10T14:15:47","modified_gmt":"2022-01-10T13:15:47","slug":"becoming-love-language-literate","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.intimina.com\/blog\/becoming-love-language-literate\/","title":{"rendered":"Becoming Love Language Literate"},"content":{"rendered":"

Variety is the spice of life, and that\u2019s definitely true when it comes to our love lives. We all move through the world differently, have different needs, and ways of relating. Somehow as humans, we figure out how to balance these different needs and desires and blend them together to create harmonious relationships \u2013 at least we try to.\u00a0 <\/span>One of the ways we can help make this process more enjoyable, especially in romantic relationships, is by understanding how love languages work. If you\u2019re not familiar with the love languages yet, or you need a refresher \u2013 we\u2019re here for you. Not only that, we\u2019re going to give some practical tips on how you can use the love languages to get more juiciness out of your relationships. <\/span>It\u2019s time to become love language literate!<\/span><\/p>\n

What\u2019s a Love Language?<\/b><\/p>\n

No, we\u2019re not talking about French although that can be quite the sexy language. The love languages are the different ways that people tend to give and receive love. <\/span>Sometimes even when they have the best of intentions, we don\u2019t always feel appreciated by our partners and other people we\u2019re in a relationship with. According to the love language theory, when that\u2019s happening it may be because we\u2019re not being met in the ways we need.\u00a0 <\/span>The five love languages were originally developed in 1992 by Dr. Gary Chapman, a counselor, pastor, and author. Through his years of counseling couples, Dr. Chapman was able to recognize patterns about why couples misunderstood each other and their needs. From this, he developed the \u201cFive Love Languages\u201d theory and wrote multiple bestselling books on the topic and other related subjects. <\/span>The love languages can help us understand not just be how you want to receive love, but also how you tend to give it. While they\u2019re typically discussed in the context of romantic relationships, the love languages can be applied to any dynamic including friendships and family relationships. <\/span>One of the biggest critiques people have around the theory is that it promotes heteronormativity. Given Dr. Chapman\u2019s background, he tended to work primarily with heterosexual couples, and that\u2019s the context he discusses his theories through. If you take this with a grain of salt, you can still use the love languages as a helpful learning tool in your relationships. <\/span>Most people identify with more than one love language, if not all of them. But there tends to be one that has the most impact on how you give and receive love.\u00a0 <\/span>Let\u2019s take a look at what they are and how you can use them in your relationships.<\/span><\/p>\n

Words of Affirmation<\/b><\/p>\n

‘I\u2019m so proud of you for how far you\u2019ve come.’ <\/span>How does that make you feel? If hearing that makes you grin ear to ear, your primary love language might be words of affirmation. <\/span>People with this love language love it when people use verbal language to express affection towards them. They feel seen and acknowledge when they receive encouragement and compliments.<\/span><\/p>\n

How do you let words of affirmation person know you love them?<\/span><\/p>\n