{"id":20820,"date":"2022-01-31T14:43:11","date_gmt":"2022-01-31T13:43:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.intimina.com\/blog\/?p=20820"},"modified":"2022-01-31T14:43:24","modified_gmt":"2022-01-31T13:43:24","slug":"how-important-is-sexual-compatibility","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.intimina.com\/blog\/how-important-is-sexual-compatibility\/","title":{"rendered":"How Important is Sexual Compatibility?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sex tends to be thought of as one of the central components of a relationship, and for many people it is. Sex is a huge part of being human and being in a romantic relationship \u2013 for most people. <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That\u2019s why it can be confusing and frustrating when you don\u2019t feel like you\u2019re totally sexually compatible with your partner, no matter how long you\u2019ve been together.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>What is Sexual Compatibility?<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sexual compatibility is how well you and your partner balance each other&#8217;s sexual needs, how strong your communication is around sex, and how satisfied you both feel. <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sexual compatibility looks like when you both feel seen, heard, held, and fulfilled in your sex life. <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When there\u2019s a mismatch in your sexual compatibility because of innate differences or life circumstances, one or both of you might feel like your needs aren\u2019t being met, a lack of connection, and a lack of sexual pleasure.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>What Influences Sexual Compatibility?<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sexual compatibility is the interplay of your individual sexual needs, desires, and libido levels, and how they play out together. <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This can be influenced by so many things, and if you find that your sexual compatibility has changed, it may be due to a variety of factors.\u00a0 <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What influences sexual compatibility? <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Let\u2019s take a look:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><b>Different sexual preferences:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Maybe you have <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.intimina.com\/blog\/you-get-to-define-sex\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">different definitions of sex<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, or one of you might be on the <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.intimina.com\/blog\/the-different-types-of-sexuality\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">asexual<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> spectrum, have different kinks, or you want to explore different things in your sex life. There are so many things that can go into sexual preferences, and whether or not they match up with your partner\u2019s.\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li aria-level=\"1\"><b>Physical and Mental Health: <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your sex life might be one of the first things to be affected if one or both of you is having physical or mental health issues. Things like depression, anxiety, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.intimina.com\/blog\/sex-after-trauma\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">PTSD<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, and any number of physical health issues can impact your sex life. That also includes medications that might affect your energy levels and libido.\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li aria-level=\"1\"><b>Big Life Changes: <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Part of being in a relationship is that you face life together with its ups, downs, and changes. Big life changes like having kids, moving, deaths, and just going through the motions of life can all affect your sex life.<\/span><\/li>\n<li aria-level=\"1\"><b>Your Relationship: <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Of course one of the biggest factors is how your relationship is overall. You can have a fantastic relationship and not prioritize sexual compatibility. But if it\u2019s important to you and your relationship needs work overall, then any issues in the relationship can negatively affect your sexual compatibility.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There are so many more things that come into play when it comes to sexual compatibility, now the real question is \u2013 how much does it actually matter?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>How Important is Sexual Compatibility in a Relationship?<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So here\u2019s the kicker \u2013 is sexual compatibility really that important? <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The thing is, there\u2019s no right answer. <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For some people it is, and for others, it isn\u2019t. The importance of sexual compatibility in your relationship may change over time, especially as you develop more of companionship with each other in the case of long-term relationships. <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.intimina.com\/blog\/sexuality-is-always-evolving\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">sexuality can evolve over time<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and with it your needs and desires. <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There are so many other components to a relationship besides sex like trust, communication, enjoyment, playfulness, collaboration, companionship, and so much more. <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sexual compatibility can ebb and flow, but it tends to be more stable when you\u2019re tending to the other parts of your relationship as well.\u00a0 <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So how important is it? <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Only you (and your partner) can answer that question. This is such a personal topic and varies greatly from person to person, and between relationships.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>How to Increase Sexual Compatibility?<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">All that being said, for many people sexual compatibility is a vital part of a thriving relationship. <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.intimina.com\/blog\/sex-as-a-practice-the-case-for-more-sex\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sex is a practice<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and something you can work on, which can help increase your sexual compatability.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If a mismatch in your sexual compatibility is causing a rift in your relationship, try asking yourself (and your partner) these questions:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Is there any resentment between us?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What else is going on in our lives that may be affecting our sex life?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Are we taking into account each other\u2019s sexual needs?<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">After working through those questions, you can try taking these steps to help increase your sexual compatibility:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><b>Work on Communication Skills:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Both inside and outside the bedroom. If you need help, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.intimina.com\/blog\/tips-and-tricks-do-you-know-how-to-ask-for-what-you-want-in-bed\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">here are some tips on how to ask for what you want during sex<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/li>\n<li aria-level=\"1\"><b>Go to a Sex Therapist: <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Seeing a <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.intimina.com\/blog\/what-does-a-sex-therapist-do\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">sex therapist<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> as individuals and as a couple can help you find a sexual rhythm again, and work through any blocks you both have.<\/span><\/li>\n<li aria-level=\"1\"><b>Increasing Intimacy:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Focus on increasing intimacy outside of sex. This can include vulnerable conversations, cuddling, kissing, massages, baths, gentle walks together, and doing other things you enjoy together.<\/span><\/li>\n<li aria-level=\"1\"><b>Bring Toys into the Bedroom: <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This might help bridge any mismatch in pleasure you two are experiencing.<\/span><\/li>\n<li aria-level=\"1\"><b>Opening Up a Relationship: <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Exploring <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.intimina.com\/blog\/monogamish-exploring-polyamory\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">polyamory<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and open relationships might give you the spice you need or help you satisfy your needs in a different way.<\/span><\/li>\n<li aria-level=\"1\"><b>Get Creative: <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What new things have you been wanting to try in your sex life? Maybe you two want to try <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.intimina.com\/blog\/threesomes-and-moresomes\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">threesomes<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.intimina.com\/blog\/so-you-want-to-try-pegging\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">pegging<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.intimina.com\/blog\/creatively-kinky-an-introduction\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">kink<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, or exploring <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.intimina.com\/blog\/ignite-your-senses-with-food-fantasies\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">food fantasies<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/li>\n<li aria-level=\"1\"><b>Masturbate: <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This might seem counterintuitive, but masturbating can help you get back in touch with your sense of pleasure and what you like, which you can then incorporate into your sexual relationship with your partner.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"list-style-type: none;\"><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Again, sexual compatibility is a highly personal topic. It might not be at the forefront of your relationship, and that\u2019s totally ok. If it is something you want to work on, we hope these tips help you!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Sex tends to be thought of as one of the central components of a relationship, and for many people it is. Sex is a huge part of being human and&hellip;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":24,"featured_media":20822,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"inline_featured_image":false},"categories":[4],"tags":[],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v20.12 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>How Important is Sexual Compatibility in a Relationship?<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"Again, sexual compatibility is a highly personal topic. 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