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There are so many factors that impact the amount of sexual pleasure you can experience, especially when another person is involved. Your mood, stress levels, where you are in your <\/span>menstrual cycle<\/span><\/a>, and of course \u2013 your relationship with your sexual partner, all come together to help set the stage for your sex life.<\/span><\/p>\n

Whether you\u2019re having sex with a committed partner, a fun fling, or somewhere in between, there\u2019s no doubt that the dynamic between you two plays a huge role in how much you\u2019re getting from your sex life. A lot of things go into that dynamic: your expectations for each other and the relationship, how much you enjoy each other\u2019s company, and a huge one \u2013 trust.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Trust and sexual pleasure go hand in hand. This may seem obvious, but there\u2019s a lot more beneath the surface when it comes to the word \u201ctrust\u201d. So how exactly does trust play out in our sex lives, and how can you build more within a relationship? Let\u2019s find out!<\/span><\/p>\n

Understanding Trust and Sex<\/b><\/h2>\n

When you think of the word \u201ctrust\u201d in the context of relationships, what comes to mind? Honoring commitments? Being able to rely on someone? Physical and emotional safety? All of these are fundamental parts of trust in a relationship, but there\u2019s a lot more to the story.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Trust isn\u2019t just about being able to rely on someone. On a deeper level, trust is a nuanced ability to be able to be totally present with someone. When you have a deep level of trust with someone, you\u2019re able to bring all of you to the table. Trust allows you to be at ease with your partner, there\u2019s a different level of relaxation that also adds to pleasure and enjoyment.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Have you heard of the <\/span>pleasure gap<\/span><\/a>? It\u2019s a term that describes the phenomenon in heterosexual relationships that women are a lot less likely to orgasm regularly than men. There are a lot of factors that contribute to this, a big one being how women are treated in society and historically.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

The female body usually needs a feeling of fundamental trust and safety to fully open and relax. And while <\/span>sex isn\u2019t all about orgasms<\/span><\/a>, they sure are nice. Not only do they feel great, but it\u2019s a lot easier to get there when you have a large amount of trust in the person that you\u2019re having sex with.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s Not You, It\u2019s Me<\/b><\/h2>\n

If you don\u2019t totally trust your sexual partner, it doesn\u2019t necessarily mean this person is \u201cuntrustworthy\u201d, but that on some level, you don\u2019t feel comfortable completely opening up to them. That doesn\u2019t mean that either of you is at fault, but that something in the dynamic is a little off.<\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s easy to blame your partner or yourself when your sex life is meeting your expectations, but it\u2019s no one\u2019s fault. Sometimes if you have trouble building deep trust with a sexual or romantic partner, it could be because of unresolved <\/span>traumas<\/span><\/a> that occurred at any age. These events create a sort of disruption in your ability to connect with people on the level that you\u2019d like to, especially sexual or romantic relationships. A lack of trust often has to do with things that are going on with you internally that are then being reflected in your relationship, and of course \u2013 your sex life.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Trust Takes Time<\/b><\/h2>\n

Even if you\u2019re feeling steady and secure in yourself, trust isn\u2019t an instant thing. It takes time to build the level of trust that is often necessary for you to experience the kind of pleasure that you\u2019d like to. When you take the time to nurture this part of your relationship, it starts to build a sense of safety and security. This in turn allows you to fully open up with this person, in every sense of the word.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Sexual pleasure takes time to build with foreplay, kissing, and sensual touch. But it also has to do with the bigger picture of building trust and pleasure in the relationship overall. It might feel like you want to rush through and experience it all, right now, but some things are worth the wait. That being said, there are things you can do to help build the kind of trust that allows for deeper intimacy and pleasure.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

How to Build Trust in Relationships<\/b><\/h2>\n

A lot of trust in relationships builds organically, but it can also be cultivated through conscious action.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Here are some ways you can build trust in your relationship:<\/span><\/p>\n