{"id":21325,"date":"2022-09-08T12:07:21","date_gmt":"2022-09-08T10:07:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.intimina.com\/blog\/?p=21325"},"modified":"2022-09-09T11:07:47","modified_gmt":"2022-09-09T09:07:47","slug":"building-intimacy-in-and-outside-the-bedroom","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.intimina.com\/blog\/building-intimacy-in-and-outside-the-bedroom\/","title":{"rendered":"Building Intimacy In and Outside The Bedroom"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Intimacy is one of the things that makes the world go round. It helps us feel softer, and more connected with ourselves, our loved ones, our bodies, and our sense of pleasure. When people think of intimacy they tend to think of sex. Of course, sex is a huge part of intimacy, but it\u2019s just a tiny part of the picture. Being able to build intimacy outside of sex can not only improve your sex life but help you feel more connected overall. Like many things in life, increasing intimacy can be easier said than done. Sometimes we need some backup support.<br \/>\nWe\u2019ve got some ways for you to increase intimacy with your partner and yourself.<\/p>\n<h2><strong>Take a Break<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>Life can be a lot sometimes. The stressors of everyday life can be one of the biggest mood killers when it comes to intimacy. Sometimes you need to take a step back from everyday routines and responsibilities to remind yourselves why you\u2019re together.<\/p>\n<p>Here are some other ways you can take a break together:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Cooking a meal together each week<\/li>\n<li>Going for a walk to wind down after work<\/li>\n<li>Sharing morning coffee or tea without emails or other distractions<\/li>\n<li>Doing a hobby that you love together like listening to or playing music<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Taking a break doesn\u2019t have to be a huge endeavor. It\u2019s not practical for most people to just get up and go on holiday whenever they want. Instead, you can schedule weekly or daily times where you focus on your relationship and building intimacy. This can be as small as a cuddle sesh in the morning or a weekly date at your favorite restaurant.<\/p>\n<h2><strong>Practice More Physical Touch<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>When you\u2019ve been with someone for a while, sometimes physical touch starts to dwindle. Although you may or may not still have sex, you might miss the honeymoon days when you couldn\u2019t keep your hands off each other. But for most people, physical touch is a key part of engaging in intimacy, whether or not it involves sex. Humans crave touch, especially from the people we love, and some people need more touch than others.<\/p>\n<p>You can use these tips to create more physical touch in your relationship:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Give each other massages<\/li>\n<li>Hold hands when lounging or in public<\/li>\n<li>Hug just for the sake of hugging<\/li>\n<li>Cuddle when lounging or in the morning in bed<\/li>\n<li>Sneak a kiss on the cheek when they aren\u2019t expecting it<\/li>\n<li>Of course\u2026work on having more <a href=\"https:\/\/www.intimina.com\/blog\/tantra-sexual-techniques-learn-how-to-improve-your-sex-life\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">fulfilling sex<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Everyone has different needs when it comes to touch. It\u2019s important to talk to your partner about how much and what kind of touch helps them feel loved and secure in your relationship.<\/p>\n<h2><strong>Boost Your Communication Skills<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>Although we tend to think of intimacy as physical, so much of it depends on your emotional connection with your partner. One of the most important steps when it comes to increasing your emotional connection and intimacy is to improve your communication skills. Even if you already have amazing communication in your relationship, we\u2019re always learning and growing and there\u2019s always room for growth and improvement.<\/p>\n<p>Here are some ways to boost your communication skills:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Reflect on your days together<\/li>\n<li>Don\u2019t shy away from difficult conversations<\/li>\n<li>Ask your partner how certain situations make them feel<\/li>\n<li>Pay attention to non-verbal cues as well as their words<\/li>\n<li>Try out couples therapy<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2><\/h2>\n<h2><strong>Go to Couples Therapy<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>People tend to think of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.intimina.com\/blog\/should-i-go-to-couples-therapy-debunking-couples-therapy-myths\/\">couples therapy<\/a> as a last resort, or something to do when you\u2019re experiencing problems in a relationship. This is absolutely true, but it can also be helpful to help you create more depth in your relationship, improve communication, and in turn \u2013 increase intimacy. Finding the right couple\u2019s therapist can take time, and it may help if you\u2019ve had experience with solo therapy. When you are able to find the right therapist, it can be an incredibly helpful tool to boost intimacy in your relationship.<\/p>\n<h2><strong>Solo Intimacy<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p><strong>\u00a0<\/strong>Intimacy isn\u2019t just about how you interact with your partner or loved ones, you also experience intimacy with yourself. These change from person to person but greater intimacy with yourself can help you feel more calm, sensual, confident, open, and much more. These are some great tips you can use to increase intimacy with yourself:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Go on solo dates without distractions<\/li>\n<li>Practice <a href=\"https:\/\/www.intimina.com\/blog\/sustainability\/\">self-care<\/a> tools like massage, taking baths, and spending time in nature<\/li>\n<li>Have a reflective journal practice<\/li>\n<li>Practice <a href=\"https:\/\/www.intimina.com\/blog\/masturbation-is-sex-the-case-for-self-love\/\">masturbation<\/a> or other forms of self-pleasure<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Intimacy can feel daunting at first if you\u2019re feeling disconnected from yourself or your partner, but like many things in life, it\u2019s a practice that can constantly be improved upon. Navigate increasing intimacy with an open mind, be gentle with yourself and your partner, and know that you deserve the type of relationship that you\u2019re craving.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Intimacy is one of the things that makes the world go round. 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