{"id":21491,"date":"2023-01-31T07:20:46","date_gmt":"2023-01-31T06:20:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.intimina.com\/blog\/?p=21491"},"modified":"2023-01-31T07:32:47","modified_gmt":"2023-01-31T06:32:47","slug":"how-to-let-go-of-sexual-shame","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.intimina.com\/blog\/how-to-let-go-of-sexual-shame\/","title":{"rendered":"How To Let Go of Sexual Shame"},"content":{"rendered":"

No matter your relationship with it, sexuality is a big part of who we are as humans. Sex should be a source of pleasure, connection, joy, creativity, and much more.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Unfortunately, it\u2019s often not that straightforward. Sometimes sex becomes a chore, a source of anxiety, disconnection, or you don\u2019t have sex at all.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

A lot of what causes these sexual blocks, or keeps us from enjoying our sex lives comes from shame. Sexual shame is deep-rooted and can stem from all different sources, making its way all the way to your bed.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sexual shame can feel like this huge wall between you and your partner, or yourself. It can block you from feeling connected, and from feeling the depths of pleasure that you\u2019re capable of.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

But where does sexual shame come from, and how do you overcome it and have the sex life of your dreams? Let\u2019s dive in!<\/span><\/p>\n

Getting to the Root of Sexual Shame<\/h2>\n

Before you can figure out how to release sexual shame, you have to figure out where it\u2019s coming from. These sorts of conversations and reflections can be incredibly tender, triggering, or emotional, so please be gentle with yourself.<\/span><\/p>\n

These are some of the most common sources of sexual shame:<\/span><\/p>\n

Socio-Cultural<\/strong><\/p>\n

Our world isn\u2019t exactly a welcoming place for different experiences of sexuality. So often society and culture instigate sexual shame, especially for cis women and people with vulvas, people in the LGBTQI+ community, and anyone who has <\/span>kinks<\/span><\/a> or sexual interests that deviate from the norm.<\/span><\/p>\n

Living in a closed-minded society, or one that doesn\u2019t understand the importance of sexual wellness can create shame about simply being who you are or being attracted to who you\u2019re attracted to.<\/span><\/p>\n

Religion<\/b><\/p>\n

Religion is another aspect of culture that can lead to massive amounts of sexual shame. Many religions also inherently discourage, or outright shame sexual pleasure. Again this is even more so for the same demographics we mentioned above.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Sexual shame from religion can linger even long after you may have left the religion or changed your relationship with it.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Family Unit<\/b><\/p>\n

Your family is probably influenced by your culture and\/or religion, but they may have more obvious attitudes toward sexuality that were preached to you growing up.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

They may have outright shamed you for certain behaviors, had harmful views towards sexuality, or didn\u2019t talk about sex at all which can make it seem taboo. A lot of your shame may come from not wanting to disappoint or bring shame to your family.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Media<\/b><\/p>\n

Media is a reflection of your culture and society, and can unfortunately perpetuate shame. We\u2019re exposed to so much media, so if you had negative programming toward sexuality at a young age, it may have made an impact.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sexual Trauma<\/b><\/p>\n

If you\u2019ve experienced sexual trauma or abuse, know that we are so sorry. These experiences can easily create shame around sexuality, and all sorts of other blocks. Know that you deserve to feel good, present, and safe in your body.<\/span><\/p>\n \r\n\r\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\r\n\t\t\t\t\r\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t