{"id":21507,"date":"2023-03-14T05:52:26","date_gmt":"2023-03-14T04:52:26","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.intimina.com\/blog\/?p=21507"},"modified":"2023-03-14T05:53:19","modified_gmt":"2023-03-14T04:53:19","slug":"make-dating-fun-again","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.intimina.com\/blog\/make-dating-fun-again\/","title":{"rendered":"Make Dating Fun Again! Why You Shouldn’t Lose That Joy"},"content":{"rendered":"

We all want to feel connected. We\u2019re social beings. And some of the most important connections that we create are in our romantic relationships. We understand that craving, yearning, and deep desire for romantic connections.<\/span><\/p>\n

That\u2019s why dating can feel so heavy sometimes. When you want something so badly, it sometimes takes the fun out of it. Mix that in with societal expectations, pressure from family, and comparison to other people in your life or on social media and you might start to dread dating.<\/span><\/p>\n

You forget that relationships aren\u2019t something to check off your to-do list, but a way to connect and get more depth out of life. Dating is part of the relationship process for many people, and it\u2019s a step that you should be able to enjoy. If dating has been weighing you down, we\u2019re here to help make it fun again!<\/span><\/p>\n

Why Dating Should Be Fun<\/h2>\n

When you\u2019re taking yourself and life too seriously, it zaps the joy from what could be a spontaneous, fun interaction. Sometimes when we show up to dates, we have this preconceived notion of who this person is, and what they can give to us.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

But the reality is that you don\u2019t really know them, at least not in the context of a romantic relationship. You don\u2019t know what the dynamics of your connection will look like over time. You don\u2019t know if this is your future spouse or co-parent. And that\u2019s ok. You don\u2019t need to know right now.<\/span><\/p>\n

All you need to do right now is enjoy the process. Yes, life and relationships can be serious sometimes, but dating is an opportunity for fun and spontaneity. A way to meet new people and get a better understanding of what you want in a partner and how you show up in relationships.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Dating lets you try out new things, and new people, and go to places that you might not have been otherwise. Like that wine bar meets ceramic studio downtown, or the restaurant you\u2019ve walked past a million times but have never been to.<\/span><\/p>\n

You don\u2019t need to know what the future holds right now, nor can you. But you can focus on showing up as honestly and authentically as possible and committing to enjoying the process.<\/span><\/p>\n

Joy Is Magnetic<\/h2>\n

Fun and joy go hand in hand, and guess what? Joy is sexy. Joy makes you memorable. Joy makes people want to be around you. Joy is magnetic.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

If we\u2019re being honest (and we always are), people don\u2019t usually want to date someone who is negative, a buzzkill, or just not engaging. We\u2019re not saying that\u2019s you, but sometimes if you\u2019re not enjoying the process of dating, people can pick up on that.<\/span><\/p>\n

So if the sheer feeling of joy itself isn\u2019t motivation enough, think of it this way: Joy helps attract people who are more aligned with what you need, and what makes you feel good. Plus you\u2019ll notice if someone doesn\u2019t match your joyful energy and know they\u2019re probably not it!<\/span><\/p>\n

Plus if you\u2019re able to enjoy yourself no matter what the outcome is, then any relationship that comes from that has a happy, positive foundation to grow from.<\/span><\/p>\n

How To Have Fun Dating<\/h2>\n

All of this is nice in theory, but how do you actually start to have fun while dating?<\/span><\/p>\n

Take the Pressure Off<\/h3>\n

It\u2019s helpful to set an intention before going on a date. What do you want from this date outside of a relationship, future spouse, someone to have sex with, etc? Focus on how you want to feel.<\/span><\/p>\n