{"id":21585,"date":"2023-05-05T19:15:28","date_gmt":"2023-05-05T17:15:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.intimina.com\/blog\/?p=21585"},"modified":"2023-05-05T19:15:52","modified_gmt":"2023-05-05T17:15:52","slug":"donor-questions","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.intimina.com\/blog\/donor-questions\/","title":{"rendered":"Q&A for Donors from Prospective Parents"},"content":{"rendered":"

For many, <\/span>having children<\/span> is their biggest dream. Whether single, in a partnership, or long term relationship, children can be a sincere blessing for those who are ready to be a parent.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Unfortunately however, there are many reasons why some cannot conceive\u2014sometimes because of no fault of their own. It is merely a sad state of affairs.<\/span><\/p>\n

Luckily, there are options when it comes to having a child. And one of these options is finding a donor.<\/span><\/p>\n

Today, we\u2019ll give you a decent amount of questions for prospective <\/span>parents<\/span> who are looking for a donor.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

These questions will hopefully give you some more insight and clarity. They\u2019ll prompt inward introspection, and deep thought about the process, which may help you to decide if you\u2019re ready for the process.<\/span><\/p>\n

We\u2019ll also look at questions that donor-conceived people may have for their parent(s), and other information for prospective parents looking for a donor, as well as a few recommendations for those looking at using a donor.<\/span><\/p>\n

Looking for a Donor: 20 Questions to Ask Yourself<\/span><\/h1>\n

If you\u2019re looking into finding a donor, here are some important questions to ask yourself:<\/b><\/p>\n

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  1. What are your beliefs about fertility and infertility?\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n
  2. If you or your partner are infertile, have you grieved?<\/span><\/li>\n
  3. Have you thought about how a person who has been conceived via a donor may be impacted?<\/span><\/li>\n
  4. Do you feel okay about the fact that your child may not have any genetic links?<\/span><\/li>\n
  5. Do you define family as a concept that includes DNA?<\/span><\/li>\n
  6. How do you feel about you or your partner carrying a baby that is of someone unknown?<\/span><\/li>\n
  7. Have you thought about, or do you worry about, how your family, friends, and society will view your decision on using a donor?<\/span><\/li>\n
  8. Are there any financial concerns?<\/span><\/li>\n
  9. What does your support system look like?<\/span><\/li>\n
  10. Do you want to keep your <\/span>infertility<\/span><\/a> a secret?<\/span><\/li>\n
  11. What is important to you when choosing a donor? Keep in mind that you may not know much about what they look like or what kind of person they are.<\/span><\/li>\n
  12. What donor characteristics are important to you?<\/span><\/li>\n
  13. What are your thoughts on possible <\/span>medical issues<\/span> that may be passed on to your future child?<\/span><\/li>\n
  14. How do you feel about telling your family and friends about finding a donor?<\/span><\/li>\n
  15. How do you think you\u2019ll handle your future child\u2019s curiosity when it comes to finding out about their genetic relatives?<\/span><\/li>\n
  16. Do you understand that some secrets can be damaging to friends and family?<\/span><\/li>\n
  17. Do you understand that there may be some legal and <\/span>emotional issues<\/span> that come with using a donor?<\/span><\/li>\n
  18. How will you deal with people or strangers finding out about your donor process?<\/span><\/li>\n
  19. Do you believe you\u2019ll be able to connect with and love your child despite having used a donor?<\/span><\/li>\n
  20. Have you thought that perhaps some information at <\/span>fertility<\/span> clinics may not be accurate, such as keeping records, regularly updating donor\u2019s information etc.?<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    While these questions are important, there are still some other things to consider.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

    These are not solely about you, a prospective parent, but also about your future child\u2014a child that may be inquisitive to know about their genetic background, and\/or have many questions for you.<\/span><\/p>\n

    Questions Donor-Conceived People May Have for Their Parent(s)<\/span><\/h2>\n

    Before embarking on the adventure of conceiving a child, remember that there are a lot of questions that aren\u2019t just for the present.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

    You may be having a lot of emotions about the process, and that may lead you to want to focus only on the now. But this decision is not something to be taken lightly.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

    If you decide to disclose the fact that you used a donor to your child (and we highly recommend that you do), think about how they might react, and what kind of questions they may have for you.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

    All of the above simply leads us to one thing: that it\u2019s important to educate yourself on what a donor-conceived child may need or experience <\/span>before<\/span><\/i> you create one.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

    A donor-conceived person should be able to feel as though they can comfortably ask you:<\/b><\/p>\n