{"id":21632,"date":"2023-06-08T06:57:50","date_gmt":"2023-06-08T04:57:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.intimina.com\/blog\/?p=21632"},"modified":"2023-06-08T06:58:05","modified_gmt":"2023-06-08T04:58:05","slug":"hard-time-orgasming","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.intimina.com\/blog\/hard-time-orgasming\/","title":{"rendered":"Do You have a Hard Time Orgasming with Sexual Partners?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Sex is pretty amazing for the most part, but it can also be a source of anxiety, confusion, or just unmet expectations. You want to create these deep connections, fulfill your sexual fantasies, and feel immense amounts of pleasure.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Maybe you do get all of that, but you\u2019re still not getting to thaaat place. We\u2019re talking about orgasms. You feel super turned on when having sex with a partner, you feel playful and sexy, and you thoroughly enjoy having sex with them \u2013 but you just can\u2019t seem to <\/span>orgasm<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s not like you can\u2019t orgasm in general. You have no problem crossing the finish line when you\u2019re having solo sex, so why is it so hard with someone else there? Let\u2019s take a peek under the hood to investigate why it\u2019s difficult to orgasm with other people, and what to do about it.<\/span><\/p>\n

The Masturbation Dilemma\u00a0<\/b><\/h2>\n

When you\u2019re in the zone <\/span>masturbating<\/span><\/a>, you feel like you can orgasm in 30 seconds flat sometimes. Or you like to take your sweet time, but either way, there\u2019s never any doubt in your mind that you will eventually.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Why is it so much easier for people with vulvas to orgasm by themselves than with a partner?<\/span><\/p>\n

Stage Fright\u00a0<\/b><\/h3>\n

Sexual stage fright is a thing. You might be the most confident person on the block, but when you\u2019re close to doing something as vulnerable as having an orgasm \u2013 you freeze up. It\u2019s likely not something that you\u2019re conscious of, you unconsciously tense and squeeze, blocking you from the big release.<\/span><\/p>\n

You don\u2019t have this when you\u2019re by yourself. It\u2019s just you and you, plus maybe a toy or two *wink*.<\/span><\/p>\n

The Relationship<\/b><\/h3>\n

Another factor that can make it difficult to have an orgasm with a sexual partner is the relationship itself. While some people can have an orgasm with anyone, a lot of people (especially those with vulvas) are especially sensitive to relationship dynamics.<\/span><\/p>\n

No matter how long you\u2019ve been with someone, sometimes you just don\u2019t feel 100% comfortable. That can greatly impact your ability to orgasm. On the other hand, sometimes you have that sort of connection right off the bat.<\/span><\/p>\n

You Know Exactly What To Do<\/b><\/h3>\n

One of the biggest reasons it\u2019s easier to have an orgasm by yourself is that you know what to do. You\u2019ve only ever lived in your body. You know the exact pace, rhythm, pressure, and all the things that send you over the edge.<\/span><\/p>\n

Even if your partner has the same equipment as you, or you\u2019ve been together for ages \u2013 they\u2019re not a mind reader! Only you know your body, so you have to communicate with your partner (or partners) what you like.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Another way you can tackle this is by actually showing them! There\u2019s a 99% chance that your partner will find it incredibly hot to watch you masturbate. Talk about killing two birds with one stone.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Orgasming With a Partner<\/b><\/h2>\n

This is all nice and theory, but in real life, it can be incredibly frustrating to feel like you\u2019re not getting what you want out of your sexual experiences. But it\u2019s your body, your sex life, and you have the power to change it \u2013 with some guidance.<\/span><\/p>\n

Noticing Sexual Blocks<\/b><\/h2>\n

Do you have things going on with yourself that might be keeping you from orgasming with a partner? Even if it\u2019s not obvious, these can manifest as sexual blocks:<\/span><\/p>\n