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Sex. What\u2019s your first reaction to hearing this word? Excitement? Nervousness? Uncertainty? Arousal? Maybe all of the above? If you\u2019re thinking about having sex for the first time, then this topic may feel even more charged up.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Whether you\u2019re 16 or 26, there\u2019s no right age to have sex, but it can still be a confusing time to navigate. You might feel like there\u2019s a volleyball game in your head and heart (and other places), which is why we\u2019re here to help clear up some confusion and offer guidance on what to consider if you\u2019re wondering \u201cAm I ready to have sex?\u201d.<\/span><\/p>\n

It Doesn\u2019t Have To Be a Huge Deal<\/h2>\n

Having sex (or not having it) may seem like the biggest decision you\u2019re ever going to make. Especially if you\u2019re facing it right now. And it\u2019s hard to understand this at the moment, but it doesn\u2019t have to be a huge deal. Hear me out.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sex is a huge part of being human, being in relationships, and experiencing pleasure. But like every other part of being human, sex isn\u2019t perfect. It can be silly and messy (literally), funny and intense. It can be so many things, and this imperfect part of life doesn\u2019t have to have so much pressure on it.<\/span><\/p>\n

The goal of a healthy sex life (besides procreating if you\u2019re into that) is pleasure, connection, joy, and presence. Focusing on that makes you realize that your first time doesn\u2019t have to be a huge event, instead, it\u2019s a gateway to a new (very fun) part of life.<\/span><\/p>\n

We understand that this can be complicated if your religion or culture has particular views on life, but we urge you to make your own decisions and seek supportive, non-judgmental guidance where you can.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Defining Sex for Yourself<\/h2>\n

Another thing to consider is what sex means to you. Sex doesn\u2019t just mean a penis in a vagina. Although it certainly can if you want it to. You get to <\/span>decide what sex means to you<\/span><\/a>, who you want to have sex with, and everything else that has to do with your unique sexuality.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sex can also include oral sex, manual stimulation (fingering and hand jobs), using toys, penetration with a dildo, non-penetrative genital-to-genital stimulation, and anything else you can think of. Realizing that you get to define sex for yourself helps break down stereotypes and gives you more autonomy over your own body and choices.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Sexuality can evolve too. You might realize you\u2019re attracted to a new gender or had new realizations about your gender that changed your romantic dynamics. This is all ok and a normal part of being a sexual human!<\/span><\/p>\n

You Feel Comfortable Communicating Your Needs<\/h2>\n

Something that a lot of people don\u2019t consider, or don\u2019t even realize before having sex is that they are in charge of communicating what they want. Your partner is not a mind reader, especially if sex is new for both of you.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

This is your time to learn together, and one of the best ways to do that is through communication. Do you want to try a certain position? Can you try a different angle? Do you need to move more slowly? These are all important questions to ask yourself, and communicate with whoever you\u2019re having sex with.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

This is a skill that takes time, and if sex is new for you, then you might not even know what you like yet. If it makes you feel any better, a lot of people who have been having sex for quite some time still don\u2019t know what they want or how to communicate it. It\u2019s saddening, but this doesn\u2019t have to be you. Start working on this skill now so that you can <\/span>ask for what you want in bed<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

Know Your Boundaries<\/h2>\n

It\u2019s just as important to be able to communicate what you do want as what you <\/span>don\u2019t want<\/span><\/i>. Boundaries are an important part of any relationship, especially if you\u2019re having sex.<\/span><\/p>\n

Having healthy boundaries allows you to have an enjoyable sex life where you feel empowered and respected. Understanding your boundaries and how to set them before even having sex helps give you a strong foundation for all sexual encounters or relationships to come.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Boundaries can look like this:<\/span><\/p>\n