{"id":21857,"date":"2023-12-14T10:17:55","date_gmt":"2023-12-14T09:17:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.intimina.com\/blog\/?p=21857"},"modified":"2023-12-11T22:32:41","modified_gmt":"2023-12-11T21:32:41","slug":"how-to-get-over-a-breakup","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.intimina.com\/blog\/how-to-get-over-a-breakup\/","title":{"rendered":"Practical Tips To Get Through a Breakup"},"content":{"rendered":"

One of the hardest, yet realest parts of being human is going through heartbreak. Going through a breakup can bring about a sort of \u201cambiguous grief\u201d. Grieving a person or relationship who is still alive and maybe still part of your life in some ways.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

This grief and heartbreak can make you feel like you\u2019re falling apart, and unable to carry on with your daily life. <\/span>Scientists<\/span><\/a> back up the very real physical sensation that many people feel when they\u2019re heartbroken. Many people experience chest pain, panic attacks, and feelings of being \u201ccrushed\u201d.<\/span><\/p>\n

The Science Behind Heartbreak<\/h2>\n

Hormones released during heartbreak can activate both the sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous system. This can confuse the brain and heart, making them feel like they\u2019re getting mixed messages (sound familiar?). These mixed messages can disturb the electrical activity of the heart. We see the effect in widows and widowers who have a 41% increased risk of dying within the first six months of losing their spouse.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Further research shows that heartbreak may have an evolutionary purpose. That the pain people experience has helped them survive and that the risk of heartbreak plays a role in secure attachment and social bonding.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

As interesting as the science behind heartbreaks is, it probably doesn\u2019t lessen the pain you\u2019re experiencing. Which is why we\u2019re here to support you with some practical tips to get through a breakup.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Set Boundaries<\/h2>\n

Some breakups can drag on for weeks, months, or even years. This is especially true if you have kids with someone, have lived together, or share other assets. That\u2019s why it\u2019s so important to have boundaries.<\/span><\/p>\n

Therapist, somatic teacher, and founder of The Embodiment Institute, <\/span>Prentis Hemphill<\/span><\/a>, defined boundaries as \u201cthe distance at which I can love both you and me simultaneously.\u201d Her work emphasizes the importance of self-love first to set the foundation for your connection with others.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Boundaries can seem like an intangible concept, or impossible to navigate amidst the stress of heartbreak, so here are some examples.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n