Lady Boners: Female Erectile Tissue

Sexual Wellness | | Natasha Weiss
4 min read

Boners. Erection. “Hard”. We all know these terms, and typically leave them for those with penises. A little known fact, is that a woman’s reproductive anatomy is also full of erectile tissue. Astoundingly, according to longtime midwife and legendary sex educator Sheri Winston, women have just as much erectile tissue as men. It’s just arranged differently, because well- we have different anatomy. Mind blown? Just you wait.

As society becomes more comfotable with women’s sexuality, and sex as a whole, more and more people are stepping up to the plate. They are speaking up about just how much sex has been shushed for women, and opening the doors for their capacity for pleasure.

A huge part of making space for women to experience more sexual pleasure, is providing more knowledge and education on their anatomy. How can we expect women (and men for that matter) to deepen their sexual knowledge, if they don’t know how their bodies work?

They don’t get this information from general sex education in school. They’re probably not getting it from their parents- who may not know themselves.  And it’s barely talked about in the scientific community. While the conversations around women and sex is expanding rapidly, they need more information, and they need more research. 

These days, much of the conversation around women’s sexual pleasure is focused on the clitoris. While this incredible hot button definitely packs a punch (and gets the job done), there is so much more to the female erogenous zones.

When they talk about the clitoris, they are typically referring to the small exposed knob, called the glans, where the top of the labia minora meet, just above the urethral opening. This overemphasis on the clitoris neglects to acknowledge the incredibly complex system that makes up the circuit of female arousal. 

A 2009 study published by The European Journal of Obstetrics & Gynecology and Reproductive Biology explains how the male and female genital organs are identical in utero until about eight weeks gestation.

Men and women (and anyone in between) are nearly the same until two months into pregnancy- of course it makes sense that we have the same amount of erectile tissue. It just happens to look and operate a bit differently.

This same study goes on to explain how the female erectile tissue extends through the labia minora (inner lips), the whole clitoral apparatus, and the vestibular bulbs of the female genitalia. That’s a lot of erectile tissue! They explain how this erectile tissue becomes changes with sexual arousal- much like the male penis.

This seems like common sense, but sometimes it needs to be mapped out. This study concludes that the homogeneousness, aka sameness, of the female and male erectile tissue should be the basis for the conversation around women’s orgasms.

Should we say it again? Women have just as much erectile tissue as men. Period. Although a “lady boner” may not be as obvious as that of a male’s, there is noticeable engorgement during sexual arousal.

While a male erection is necessary for penetration, it’s not technically necessary for women. That doesn’t mean it shouldn’t happen.

Much of the discomfort that many women experience during penetrative sex, comes from a lack of time. Female arousal and engorgement of the erectile tissue takes time. It takes a feeling of safety. It depends on who they are with. What time of day it is. Where they are. And how they’re feeling overall.

There are so many variables that come into play that need to be taken into account for a woman to become fully aroused.

Foreplay is the key here. Foreplay can mean a lot of things. It can mean setting the space. It can mean loving language with your partner for a few days- before even engaging in sexual activities. It can mean slowing down to cuddle, to do sensual, grounded pleasures with your partner like nature walks and cooking.

All these things build up to create a physiological feeling of safety in the body. A necessary step for the hormonal cascade that leads to female arousal.

Now that you have the facts, you are invited to explore this in your own body. If you’re comfortable doing so, using a mirror to get to know your genitals can be an incredible experience. Observing yourself throughout various stages of arousal, will give you a better idea as to what your body needs to reach different states.

By paying attention to your anatomy, you will see how your erectile tissue engorges and changes throughout a sexual encounter- even with yourself. You can even do this with a partner. Allowing them to see the magic that the female body undergoes throughout arousal.

Practicing and observing throughout the month, and at different times of the day, allows you to see how your body responds during different points of your cycle. Try journaling about your experience to notice patterns, so that you can come to a deeper understanding of your body.

A gentle reminder: Sex is not about orgasms. They are nice, incredible, ecstatic even, but this extra pressure to “achieve orgasm” often distracts from the ability to feel the waves of pleasure in each moment. Slow down, take your time, come into your body, and experience the magic that unfolds.

4 thoughts on “Lady Boners: Female Erectile Tissue

  • Horst says:

    The length of the male erectile tissue is a lot bigger than the female erectile tissue. The length of the female erectile tissue spreads out by the size of the outer.lips which extend about 9 cm sometimes a little bit more. The maximum is about 12 cm. Most women ignore the fact ,that the penis extends till the anus, so it is more than the visble stick out part ! And isn`t it the female sexual researcher of Australia with the name O`Conell, which wrote, that the internal part of the clitoris is between 7 – 9 cm. When you add to this about 3 cm of the external part of the clit ba an arousal, so you have a total length of about 12 cm. The cock, when aroused it is about 14 cm, the “internal part about 10 cm, so the complete penis has a size of about 24 or 25 cm, this is the double size of the clitoris !

  • Chi says:

    The density of erectile tissue is different.
    But the amount of erectile tissue is the same. In case of a person with a penis, the erectile tissue is just spread over a larger area, giving it a lesser density.
    On the other hand, with a clitoris, the density is way higher.

  • Virgin says:

    Are there any procedures available for a woman, whom has been maimed,blood encouraging organ,brutally cut out from under the g-spot?

  • Horst says:

    It`s the question, if you mean with density the stiffness of the clitoris vs. this of the penis, or do you something else. I don`know what it can be. In any case, the penis becomes stiffer than the clitoris, by an arosal. A penis you can notr bow in all directions, else it would break, resp. get broken. The reason is the sub-albugineal layer, this tissue don`t have the clitoris ! So the clit can be move to and fro without pain and resistance. This isn`t possible with the penis.

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