Mind-bending. Transcendental. What the *insert expletive here* just happened?!
Those are just a few things that come to mind after experiencing a cervical orgasm.
Yes, they’re real, and we’re here to crack the code, and introduce you to a whole new world of pleasure *cue Alladin’s ‘A Whole New World’*.
In case you forgot, your cervix is the tiny donut-shaped organ that lies between the end of your vagina, and your uterus.
This gateway to your womb is constantly changing throughout your cycle, with pregnancy, labor, birth, arousal, and more. It’s location, length, opening, and lubrication levels all fluctuate with these changes.
It also holds the key to life-changing orgasms.
What Does it Feel Like?
If you’re used to clitoral orgasms only, the blissful feelings that come from cervical stimulation may come as a (very pleasant) surprise.
Because the organ is deeper in your body than the clitoris, the sensations will feel deeper as well.
Clitoral orgasms, as amazing as they are, have a rise and fall to them. A quick build and drop. They reach an obvious crescendo and spike back down.
Cervical orgasms are a whole-body experience. You may feel it from the tips of your toes to your scalp, even the lengths of your hair and nails.
Taoist reflexology calls the cervix the reflexology point to the heart. And for a good reason. When cervical orgasms ripple through your body, the incredible rush of oxytocin may leave you swooning over your partner with mushy-gushy feelings of love. As well as a profound love for yourself and the universe.
Do it Yourself
Ok, now for the moment you’ve all been waiting for, drum roll please…a how-to on diving into the sea of cervical orgasms.
First off, it helps to explore your cervix. To have an understanding of what yours looks like, and demystify this hidden trove of treasures.
At first, try finding it with your fingers. It sort of feels like the tip of your nose, squishy yet firm, however, it will feel different all the time.
The next step is to see it. You can try solo, or with a partner, by using a speculum (like those used in PAP smears), a flashlight, mirror, and probably a gentle lube. The Beautiful Cervix Project sells DIY home kits and is also a place to look at the vast array of cervixes out there. Keep in mind- this totally isn’t necessary to have a cervical orgasm, but it is cool!
As with anything, communication is key to exploring these new oceans of ecstasy. Tell your partner you’re interested in trying out cervical stimulation. Discuss any hesitation, anxieties, blocks, with them- as well as your desires. For you solo adventurers, you can totally have this conversation with yourself- or your journal.
Take your time.
One of the biggest blocks to reaching cervical orgasms is rushing. It can take time to feel aroused enough to be ready for such deep penetration. Take your time with sensual kisses and tantalizing whole body touches. As you become more aroused, the cervix lifts up, and slightly opens.
The cervix can be incredibly sensitive. Especially if this is new. It may feel really intense at first. Be mindful and don’t try to push past feelings of pain. Take a step back, and try a different pace, position, or on a different day.
Slow it down. Gentle pulses are a great way to start. Think of it more as a massage than a fast thrust. Once you get going, you may find you need it faster, stronger, or slower- be sure to communicate this with your partner (if one is present).
You know your body best, and it might take some experimenting to see what positions hit the spot. Also, keep in mind the way your partner’s penis (if they have one) lines up with your anatomy. The same goes for toys. This can be a bit of trial and error. But if you’re enjoying yourself in the meantime, there’s no error to be made!
Some tried and true cervix stimulating positions are doggy style and missionary with your legs on their shoulders, or with your butt propped up.
A crowd favorite is for you to lay on your back, leaning slightly to one side, and have your partner enter you from an angle. This allows for deep intimacy, eye contact, kissing, and clitoral stimulation.
Things to Remember
Drop Expectations. As motivating as all this may sound, the point is not to reach an end goal. It’s to develop a deeper sense of trust, intimacy, and surrender with yourself and your partner. This sort of opening is what allows for cervical orgasms. Take the focus away from orgasms, and shift it to connection and exploration.
Toys are awesome! Toys and dildos can totally be used to explore cervical orgasms, it’s just a matter of finding the right one. Just be sure to properly sanitize it to avoid any cervical infections.
The cervix can not be penetrated. Instead of thinking of penetrating it, think stimulating.
Be vocal. There is a direct connection from the throat to the cervix via the vagus nerve. Relax the jaw and face, you can try massaging them as well, and allow whatever noises that come up, to come out.
Cervical play can feel incredibly vulnerable. It may bring up deep emotions, traumas, and other blocks you had stored in your body. These orgasms can easily make you cry, thanks to the otherworldly feelings of ecstasy and oneness they bring on.
Relax into the experience, and just enjoy the process!
Natasha’s passion for reproductive health began at age fourteen, when she was present for the birth of her youngest sister. Her incredible experiences as a birth doula, has given her hands on insight into the magical realm of birth, pregnancy, and all things in between. Her role as a birth worker, is her way of serving as an activist. She uses writing as a key educational tool for creating change in how we view reproductive health as a whole.