This article was medically fact-checked by Consultant Obstetrician and Gynaecologist Dr. Shree Datta.
At Intimina, we’re kind of an authority on period sex. We’re big fans of riding the crimson tide, whether you’re turned on by the idea of getting outright red and messy or would prefer to keep things clean with the help of a trusty period sex cup.
But look, we get it. Sometimes, no matter how horny you’re feeling, penetration just isn’t in the cards during your monthly moon time. Be it bloating or cramps or that clogged-up, constipated feeling, you just might not be into intercourse until that time of the month is over.
Still, we see no need to slow down your sexual routine, as there are so many incredible ways to tease and please your external erogenous zones with a partner that don’t require a dildo or a dick.
You can still set the mood, get creative and get your kicks even when you’re not in the mood for penetration. Read on for some novel tips and tricks about things to do while on period (sexually) to keep the sex going all month long (without the mess, of course). Who knows, you might even discover a whole new way to look at partner sex!
Forever Young And Horny
If you’re nostalgic for the days of making out behind the bleachers and sneaking out of the house to meet up with your crush, here’s a youthful sex game just for you.
Our suggestion for your next couples’ date night is to turn back the clock to the days before penetrative sex was even in the cards. Pretend you’re back in high school and relive some of the foreplay you experienced long before you started having sex.
This game involves all of your teen-hood faves: good tunes, grinding with your clothes on, and tangling tongues – and this time, you don’t have to fret about mom walking in.
Ask one partner to make a 30 minute mix tape – or, rather, a playlist since its 2019 – of make-out songs.
While the playlist sets the mood in the background, try all sorts of teenage-era play, like kissing, massaging, fondling, grinding, dry humping, and letting your hands wander. This little game is a great way to slow down, elongate foreplay, and enjoy the moment.
Just like your wardrobe of stone-washed jeans and hair scrunchies, this game is easily customized depending on your mood. You can extend your playlist as long as you like, and you never have to “go all the way” if Aunt Flo happens to be visiting.
Give The Gift Of Goosebumps
When was the last time you got goosebumps from a sensual stroke or a lingering kiss? Now you can take those tingles to the next level with a sensual game that’s rather PG and definitely penetration-free, all things considered.
To play the game, choose one partner to receive and one partner to give (and don’t worry, you can always switch later). The receiver lays on their side while the giving partner gently strokes and kisses their ear and neck, alternating between different techniques based on their partner’s reaction. The giver should pay careful attention to which sexy moves send goosebumps up their partner’s body. Wherever goosebumps appear, gently stroke the tiny bumps.
For the person on the receiving end, having the goosebumps stroked in just the right way will cause intense tingling sensations, causing a loop of pleasure that will then reverberate from the neck and down throughout the entire body.
This full-body goosebump-gasm is the result of the vagus nerve, which delivers sensory information to the brain and also connects to the nipples, uterus and vagina in women. Certain areas on the neck and ears correspond to where the vagus nerve lies on the surface of the skin, hence the ability to trigger the sensitive vagus nerve with just the right amount of external stroking.
Lead The Way To Your Treasure Trove
Nothing drops serious hints like a trail that leads your lover straight to your erogenous zones. This next foreplay game is perfect for your period because you decide exactly where to – quite literally – draw the line.
You’ll need to prepare this game before your date night or be ready when your partner gets home. Start with an erasable marker or a pen. Choose a spot on your body and write start. From there, create dashed lines leading to destinations around your body.
If you’d rather not mark yourself up with a box of Crayolas, you can alternatively use eco-friendly lipstick, edible body paint, or thick, non-drippy chocolate or caramel depending on how messy you like to get.
If there’s a particular spot that deserves extra attention, write the number of minutes you want your pirate to spend there. Have your partner begin at the starting point, kissing slowly, following the dashed lines and focusing on parts you want pleased.
Along the way, if there are any parts you’d prefer to stay off limits, feel free to make it known with your body marker. For example, if you’d rather your partner steer clear of your downstairs during your period, we suggest a comical skull-and-crossbones to ward them away (though we make no promises that they won’t want to dive in anyway!).
Let your treasure trail end at your favorite erogenous zone and let your sensual explorer take it from there.
Ask And Arouse
Not all of us have a knack for improvisation. This Q&A -style game lets you devise questions, sexy scenarios, and even hot selfies ahead of time. When you’re ready to get your game on, gather everything you’ve prepared and get ready for a teasing good time.
Here’s the basics of play, as you’ll need to get prepped before this game. Each person gets three envelopes. In each one, include a sexy picture, role play scenario you’d like to try – with details and action – such as, “I’ll take my panties off in the bathroom and bring them back to you,” or a sexual act you’ll do for your partner.
Again, when the choices are in your hands, you get to decide how far you go. If it’s that time of the month, there are still a million and one fun, sexy activities to spice up your night.
Now grab your evening goodies, and find a secluded spot in your favorite date-night restaurant to start unveiling your surprises.
Take the envelopes to dinner and play a game of sexy questions – things you would do, places you’d like to have sex, something you’ve never done but want to try. The more intense the question, the more points the answer wins. Every 5 points earns you access to one of the sensual goody-filled envelopes you created prior.
We can’t imagine your appetites for dinner will last much longer, so spring for some appetizers so you can scoot back home to the bedroom ASAP!
Of course, there’s always room to bring in your favourite sex toy, or utilize hands, mouths, and more. No matter your sexual preference, sex does not have to include penetration!
Facts checked by:
Dr. Shree Datta
Dr. Shree Datta is a Consultant Obstetrician and Gynaecologist in London, specialising in women’s health including all menstrual problems such as fibroids and endometriosis. Dr. Shree is a keen advocate for patient choice, having written numerous articles and books to promote patient and clinician information. Her vision resonates with INTIMINA, with the common goals of demystifying periods and delivering the best possible care to her patients
Colleen began her sexual wellness career as a sex toy educator in manufacturing and retail. She has since branched out as a writer and marketer, covering all facets of sexual health and anatomy. At Intimina, she specializes in women’s medical care and health concerns, menstruation, sex and pregnancy, and birth control. Colleen frequently confers with top sex educators and intimate wellness experts to stay on top of the constantly changing sexual wellness space.